The second time menopause mothers and adolescent sister war – Sohu news roxane hayward

Second child age: menopause mother and adolescent sister war – Sohu news this year, home, dad to my mother, my sister, a group photo taken. Reporter: "mother Zhong Xianggui age: 44 Occupation: Housewife home location: Hunan Changde" 70 after "encounter" after 00 "hit puberty, menopause. The mother may encounter many family problems: adolescent daughter rebellion, mother and daughter, there is an insurmountable generation gap. The daughter of the collision, so once proud and arrogant mother put the figure, she has a lot of changes. For a few days of the Spring Festival, she told me a lot of past events. The twelfth lunar month twenty-seven, the first day I come home, home on a "war". Both sides of the war were 44 year old mother and 13 year old sister. Things are simple, a family shopping, sister see a pair of boots, 10 centimeters of high heels, full of rivets, exaggerated shape. She was clamoring, and her mother stared. "Is this your age?"" Take her and walk out. The two people did not respond to each other, a stalemate, and finally bought nothing. Back home and continue the cold war. Even though my father had given me a "needle" before returning home, I didn’t think of it. Father said, this year, the war between the two ladies, protracted, and has become white hot. The symbol of "white hot" of rebellious sister began in July 2015. In late July, I received a call from my mother, furious, with a quick voice, and said that my sister had taken a large amount of money from her home and had spent a fraction of her money in three days. Later, sister said, she took the money, invited more than a dozen students to go to amusement park, they are responsible for playing, she is responsible for the bill. Please play with no blame, the problem is to take five digit money, did not say hello to his parents. Then, mother saw her sister’s transcripts, the results of the class countdown fifth. Last exam, she was still the top twenty in the class. Mother found that a lot of things for her little daughter were beyond her control. Sister with a knife in the back of the hand crooked engraved with the name of a boy, leaving a scar, also casually displayed in the table. The school also fights with her sister, and a girl because of the boyfriend dispute, with a bunch of people, bovver arranged after school on Friday. When mother was called to the school by the teacher in charge, she almost fainted. She’s only 13. In the family, because of me and my sister, my mother was proud that she had successful parenting". From small to large, I have almost no too rebellious mother will follow her planning path, from the middle school key university, after graduation to work in Beijing. I wrote in a composition that my mother taught me to recite poems when I was three years old, and kept me open and interested. This page of paper was turned out of a pile of waste paper by her mother and placed on her bedside table. People often boast will teach children, she always presents a shy and proud look. Mother thought, sister as long as I go on the road, it will not be too Ting

二胎时代:更年期母亲与青春期妹妹的战争 -搜狐新闻 今年过年回家,爸爸给妈妈、我、妹妹拍的合影。   记者还乡   母亲:钟湘桂   年龄:44岁   职业:家庭主妇   故乡所在地:湖南常德   “70后”遇上“00后”,更年期撞上青春期。   母亲可能遇到了很多家庭都遇到的问题:青春期的小女儿叛逆,母女间有无法逾越的代沟。   女儿的冲撞,让曾经心高气傲的母亲放下了身段,她有了很多变化。   过年的几天里,她给我讲了很多往事。   腊月二十七,我回家的第一天,家里就“开战”了。   参战双方,是44岁的母亲和13岁的妹妹。   事情很简单,一家人逛街,妹妹看上一双靴子,10厘米的高跟,缀满铆钉,造型夸张。她吵着要,母亲眼一瞪,“这是你这个年纪穿的吗?”拉着她就往外走。   俩人互不搭理,一阵僵持,最终啥也没买成。回到家,继续冷战。   尽管回家前,父亲已给我打了“预防针”,我还是没想到。   父亲说,这一年,这两位女士间的战争,旷日持久,且已白热化。   叛逆妹妹   白热化的标志,始于2015年7月。   7月下旬,我接到母亲的电话,暴怒,语气急促,说妹妹拿了家里的很大一笔现金出门,在三天内花到一分不剩。   后来妹妹说,她拿着钱,请了十几个同学去游乐园,她们负责玩儿,她负责埋单。   请同学玩无可厚非,问题是拿了五位数的钱,没跟父母打招呼。   接着,母亲看到了妹妹藏起来的成绩单,成绩全班倒数第五。上次考试,她还是全班前二十。   母亲发现,小女儿的很多事情,超出了她的控制范围。   妹妹用小刀在手背歪歪扭扭刻上了男生的名字,留下疤痕,还若无其事地在饭桌上展示。   学校里发生的打架事件也和她有关,妹妹与一个姑娘因为男朋友发生争执,纠结了一帮人,约好在周五放学后打群架。   母亲被班主任叫到学校时,差点气晕,抓住桌子才勉强站稳。   她才13岁。   在家族里,因为我和妹妹,母亲一度很骄傲��她有成功的“育儿经”。   从小到大,我几乎没有忤逆过母亲的意志,循着她规划的轨迹,从重点中学升入重点大学,毕业后留在北京工作。   我曾在一篇作文中写,母亲在我三岁时教我背诗,要我保持眼界开阔、兴趣广泛。这页作文纸被母亲从一堆废纸中翻出来,放在她的床头柜里。   每每被人夸会教孩子,她总是露出一副羞赧又自豪的神情。   母亲想着,妹妹只要按照我的路走下去,一定不会太差。   这种成长来得太快,仅仅一年,她身上有了太多的变化,代沟出现得让人猝不及防。   母亲发现,比起和13岁时的我交流,和13岁妹妹的交流要难得多。   妹妹是典型的“00后”,喜欢鹿晗、吴亦凡、TFBOYS,在电子产品的陪伴下长大,对一切新鲜事物有强大的接受力,和父母却鲜有共同话题。   因为是小女儿,她的要求几乎都会被满足。   有一次,妹妹告诉我,她不知道自己念书、奋斗,是为了什么。   进入青春期,她变得更独立、自我,也开始封闭。手机、日记本和房间门,都上了锁,摆出拒绝交流的姿态。   母亲的变化   对两个孩子的教育,反差如此之大,让父母手足无措。   劝告在妹妹身上收效甚微,有一次,母亲措辞严厉了些,妹妹便离了家,一夜未归。   母亲小心翼翼地问:我该怎么办?怎么教育她?   电话里我也着急了:这么严重,肯定不是一天形成的,你怎么会一点儿都没察觉?   说完这话我就后悔了,电话那端,母亲的声音黯淡下去,叹息变得明显。   我也觉得歉疚。妹妹8岁时,我离开家,我们姐妹之间极少聊天,偶尔电话也只是说说家里的近况。和她一样,我也不知道,妹妹青春期的叛逆,为什么来得如此猛烈。   春节在舅舅家,母亲讲起过去这一年。   她说,现在她最怕的,就是接到妹妹班主任的电话,看一眼来电显示都心惊肉跳;每次家长会,她都最晚去,悄悄地坐在最后一排,听完就偷偷离开;现在,她去学校比去超市还勤,已经学会了如何跟班主任讲好话。   如此种种,她都没和我说过,我觉得鼻酸。为我的粗暴问责;为我的无力分担;为母亲这个年纪,还要重新学习如何做家长。   春节期间,她把我拉到一边,问我是不是应该去妹妹的老师家里拜访,送点礼,或者红包?   妹妹的数学老师,初中时也教过我,母亲催着我给那位老师打电话,让我语气温柔,拜托他多照顾妹妹。   放在以前,这对于“模范家长”钟女士来说,几乎是不可能的事。而如今的母亲,为了妹妹,放下了身段,努力尝试着任何改变可能女儿的方法。   我问母亲,有没有想过,妹妹要是真的无心念书,我们怎么办?   “当然想过”,她比画着手指告诉我,他们准备如何攒钱、为她买房,为她盘算一个还算安稳的未来。   我又问她,如果只有我一个,你和父亲现在肯定过得舒服,你后悔那么辛苦生二胎吗?   她反手轻轻打了我一下,“怎么可能?父母子女一场,不求你们出息,只求平安。”   两个童年   母亲从没动摇过要生两个孩子的心思。   1994年,我出生后,她便开始琢磨着为我添个弟弟或妹妹。   我总在想,如果时光可以延后十几年,让母亲赶上国家现在的二胎政策,该多好。   当年,在那个三线小城,我们区里的计生办通过妇女主任,严密监控着计划生二胎的家庭。   母亲还曾怀过一次孕,被迫打掉了。   6个月了,是个男孩儿。   到了2003年,妹妹出生了,母亲半主动半被动地辞去公职,她与计生干部的猫鼠游戏才终于结束。   我至今记得,怀妹妹时,母亲总穿着一件宽大的绿毛衣,猫在家里不敢出门。那时我们还住在有阁楼的老房子里,万一有计生干部上门,她就躲到阁楼里去。   阁楼没有楼梯,父亲临时借了一个木梯子,搭上去,晃晃悠悠的。   我常常想起那个背影��忙乱中,大肚子的母亲爬上梯子,她四处张望,手脚变得不利索。   母亲说,我小时候,还因为可能到来的“失宠”而难过,质问她“为什么一定要再生一个呢?”   母亲总愿意跟我讲她的童年:1972年,她出生,是家里最小的女儿,父母叫她“幺妹”。在我们这儿,“幺”是父母对子女的爱称,“幺儿”,就是宝贝。   她上面有两个姐姐,一个哥哥。初中时,哥哥攒了好几天的饭票,给她换肉吃,她至今念念不忘。   生活不算富足,但她感觉童年很幸福。   母亲希望我们的童年,也能相互陪伴,不孤独。   其实这篇文章,是我写给妹妹的,或者十年后的妹妹。   我不知道她还会不会记得这些画面。   儿时的暑假,我跟着哥哥们在乡下摸鱼、捉虾、打甜枣、偷西瓜,爬上树摘桑葚,沾得一身都是汁儿。那会儿你还小,在旁边看着,边笑边跳,露出小酒窝。   那时,你还坐在妈妈的自行车后座上,伸着肥肥的小短腿儿,一字一顿、有模有样地背诵“商女不知亡国恨,隔江犹唱后庭花”。   妈妈也跟我说过她想象的未来:她会在老家为你买一所房子,就在咱家的老房对面,拉开窗户喊一声,你就会出现。   同题问答   1 母亲最常说的一句话是什么?   钟湘桂:照顾好你自己,别让妈担心。   2 如果用一个词来总结母亲的2015年,会是什么?为什么?   钟湘桂:愁。上半年担心完大女儿的工作,本以为可以松口气,下半年又开始担心小女儿的学习。   3 2016年,母亲有什么愿望?整个家庭有什么比较重大的规划?   钟湘桂:大女儿平安,小女儿听话。   新京报记者 罗婷相关的主题文章: